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  • Behavioural science mixed with case-studies from history
  • Tips for optimal human functioning from positive psychology
  • No nonsense nutritional advice to get in the best shape of your life
  • Plus, you’ll also get my 5-chapter, book… for free

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How to be more attractive in 3 simple steps (really)

To be happy should never be our end goal. Striving to be happier, however, is not only healthier but more attainable. Attractiveness is much the same.

It is best viewed as a continuum, not an either/or. The desire to be more attractive, or at least fend off unattractiveness, is normal and a healthy component of high self-esteem.

“Nature to be commanded must be obeyed.” – Francis Bacon

Now before we begin I want to make a few disclaimers: I’m not going to give you fashion advice, tell you what face wash to use or how to apply invisible concealer. There’s plenty of advice on those topics already on the internet.

I’m also not going to tell you to act confident, speak clearly and hold eye contact. I’m not saying your behaviour doesn’t massively affect your attractiveness, it does, but it’s already been covered elsewhere.

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benefits of meditationI have a confession to make…

I know meditation is meant to be good for you but I don’t meditate every day.

I go through cycles of meditating 20 minutes a day and then slowly ‘forget’ and slide into not meditating until I feel I need to — until I feel like crap.

Sound familiar?

But recently things have been different.

For the last 30 days I’ve meditated for 25 minutes in the morning, 25 minutes in the evening and taken multiple 5 minute mindfulness breaks throughout the day.

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maslow's hierarchy of needsAbraham Maslow is the grandfather of positive psychology. He was one of the first authors to urge us to look to the best in society and learn from them.

Maslow’s most famous contribution to the field of positive psychology is his ‘hierarchy of needs.’ It’s a diagram illustrating the hierarchy of a meaningful live.

He built each criteria on top of one another in a pyramid to show the individual needs that must be met before ascending to the next level. Physiological needs and safety are at the bottom, self-esteem and self-actualisation are at the top.

Reading books on spiritual growth isn’t going to have its intended effect if you’re sleeping on the streets with no money and children to feed. You need your basic needs like shelter, food and water met before you can concern yourself with enlightenment.

But this article isn’t about Maslow’s hierarchy — as valuable as it is, it’s limited. I believe every skill, goal and pursuit has a hierarchy, and when discovered can yield the secret for success. Let me explain…

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What body fat percentage are you?

If you know the answer to this qHow to Calculate Body Fat Percentageuestion, you’re in the minority.

Measuring your body fat percentage can be extremely expensive and surprisingly inaccurate.

This is bad news.

Knowing your body fat percentage is crucial if you’re an aspiring dieter because it allows you to calculate a realistic weight loss goal and plan you rate of progress accordingly.

Eric Helms, 3DMJ bodybuilding coach, has helped hundreds of people diet down into contest level body fat percentages. In a recent Q & A video when asked about the most common dieting pitfall he’s come across he said:

“The number one most common mistake we see in our athletes is that they misjudge the time it takes to lose weight by 2-3 months. The average contest prep lasts 5-7 months, not 12 weeks.”

That guy who thinks he’s 16% body fat but is really 26%, will never get those washboard abs from his 8 week magazine diet, no matter how motivated he is. And when the 8 weeks are over and he realises he still has another 30 pounds to lose, how resigned do you think he’s going to feel?

And we wonder why 90% of dieters fail

Don’t make this mistake.

Studies show that patients recover quicker when their surgeon tells them everything the operation will entail — even the gory details. I believe dieters can benefit from the same treatment.

It’s time to get real.

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Another 101 Writing Tips From Hollywood Screenwriter Brian Koppelman

Brian Koppelman is an American screenwriter, novelist, director, and producer.

Best known as the co-writer of Ocean’s Thirteen and Rounders, Koppelman has also produced films such as The Illusionist and The Lucky Ones as well as directed films such as Solitary Man. (wiki)

Recently however, he’s also made the transition into teaching. Both with his blog and, now famous, ‘Six Second Screenwriting Lessons’ on Vine.

This is the sequel to the original 101 Writing Tips From Brian Koppelman (Vol. I). Below I’ve transcribed and listed another 101 of his six second screenwriting lessons.

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George R R Martin 'aha moment'

The stories of famous ‘aha moments,’ are awe-inspiring…

Legend has it, Percy Spencer invented the microwave after a candy bar melted in his pocket while he was fixing a radar; Isaac Newton discovered the law of gravity after watching an apple fall from a tree, and Albert Einstein finally grasped special relativity after glancing at Bern’s famous clock tower on his way home from work.

How lucky and supremely intelligent these individuals must have been to stumble onto such great ideas in a single instant.

Or so we’ve been taught to think. 

The truth is the ‘aha moment’ is one of the most misunderstood concepts in psychology.

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Quentin Tarantino's Telepathic Rewriting Technique

“All the arts depend upon telepathy to some degree, but I believe that writing offers the purest distillation.” – Stephen King

So you’ve beaten procrastination, strove for excellence rather than perfection and pushed through to do what screenwriter Brian Koppelman says 99% of writers with an idea only ever dream of…

You’ve finished your first draft.

Good job! Mission accomplished.

Time to sit back, relax, and share your masterpiece with the world, right?

Yeah, if only creativity was that straightforward…

Unfortunately, unless you’re blessed with incredible luck and superhuman literary genius, you’re gonna have to do a rewrite.

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